It might be hard to talk to your partner about getting tested for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), but it’s important. Chances are your partner will be glad you brought it up.
Talk before you have sex.
- “Let’s get tested before we have sex. That way we can protect each other."
- “Many people who have an STD don't know it. Why take a chance when we can know for sure?”
There are other things you may want to talk to your partner about, such as:
- Sexual history – the number of partners you’ve had and what kind of protection you used (for example, condoms or dental dams)
- Risk factors – like whether you’ve had sex without a condom or used drugs with needles
Share the facts.
- “STDs that are found and treated early are less likely to cause long-term problems.”
- “Getting tested is easy. Doctors and nurses can test your urine (pee) for chlamydia and gonorrhea, 2 of the most common STDs."
- "Getting tested can be fast, too. For some HIV tests, you get your results within 20 minutes."
- "If you want to get tested at home, you can buy a HIV home test online or at a store."
- "If you don't feel comfortable talking about STDs with your regular doctor, you can get tested at a clinic instead."
Show that you care.
- “I really care about you. I want to make sure we are both healthy.”
- “I've been tested for STDs, including HIV. Are you willing to do the same?”
- “Let’s get tested together.”
Agree to stay safe.
- “If we’re going to have sex, using condoms is the best way to protect us from STDs. Let’s use condoms every time we have sex.”
- “We can enjoy sex more if we know it’s safe.”
Content last updated October 15, 2020
This information on getting tested for sexually transmitted diseases was adapted from materials from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
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