Health Conditions

Talk with Your Teen About Preventing STDs

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The Basics

Overview

Talk with your teen about how to prevent STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) — even if you don't think your teen is sexually active.

If talking about sex and STDs with your teen makes you nervous, you're not alone. It can be hard to know where to start. But it's important to make sure your teen knows how to stay safe.

How do I talk with my teen?

Use these tips to help you talk to your teen about preventing STDs:

  • Think about what you want to say ahead of time
  • Be honest about how you feel
  • Try not to give your teen too much information at once
  • Use examples to start a conversation
  • Talk while you are doing something together
  • Get ideas from other parents

You can also ask your child’s doctor to talk with your teen about preventing STDs. This is called STD prevention counseling.

STD Facts

Why do I need to talk with my teen?

All teens can use accurate information about how to prevent STDs. Teens whose parents talk with them about sex and how to prevent STDs aren’t more likely to have sex. But they are more likely to make healthy choices about sex when they're older.

In fact, teens say that their parents have a bigger influence on their decisions about sex than the media, their siblings, or their friends. 

Find out more about why it’s important to talk to your kids about sex.

Young people are more likely to get STDs.

More than half of all STD cases in the United States happen in young people ages 15 to 24 years. Teens are at a higher risk than adults of getting STDs for several reasons. For example, they may:

  • Not know they need tests to check for STDs
  • Not use condoms correctly every time they have sex
  • Have sexual contact with multiple partners during the same period of time

Some LGBTQ teens may also be at higher risk for STDs.

What do I need to know about STDs?

STDs are diseases that can spread from person to person during vaginal, anal, or oral sex. Some STDs can also spread during any kind of activity that involves skin-to-skin sexual contact.

STDs are sometimes called STIs, or sexually transmitted infections. Examples of STDs include genital herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea, and HIV.

These diseases are very common. Although many STDs can be cured, they can cause serious health problems if they aren’t treated. Many STDs don't have any symptoms, so the only way to know for sure if you have an STD is to get tested. Learn more about STDs.

Prevention

What do I tell my teen about preventing STDs?

Talk to your teen about what STDs are and how to prevent them. Use the facts and resources below to talk with your teen.

It’s important to learn about STDs and how they spread.

Knowing the facts helps teens protect themselves. Check out these websites together:

Complete abstinence is the only sure way to prevent STDs.

Complete abstinence means not having any kind of sexual contact. This includes vaginal, anal, or oral sex and skin-to-skin sexual contact. Complete abstinence prevents STDs.

Discuss this information about abstinence with your teen.

Condoms can help prevent STDs.

Make sure your teen knows how to use condoms — even if you don't think they're sexually active. Offer to help get condoms if your teen doesn’t know where to go. Share these resources:

It’s important for teens to talk with their partners about STDs before having sex.

Encourage your teen to talk with their partner about STD prevention before having sex. Say that you understand it may not be easy, but it’s important for your teen to speak up. These tips can help:

Testing

Your teen may need to get tested for STDs.

Ask your teen to talk honestly with the doctor or nurse about any sexual activity. That way, the doctor can decide which tests your child may need. For example, sexually active teens may need to get tested for:

It's important to help your teen develop a trusting relationship with the doctor or nurse. Step out of the room to give them a chance to ask about STD testing and prevention in private.

This is an important step in teaching teens to play an active role in their health care. Get more tips on helping teens take charge of their health care.

Keep in mind that your teen can get tested for STDs at the doctor — or go to a clinic. To find an STD clinic near you:

Other Topics to Discuss

How can I talk to my teen about preventing pregnancy?

It’s also important for all teens to know about preventing pregnancy. Check out these resources with your teen:

How can I help my teen build healthy relationships?

Families have different rules about when it’s okay for teens to start dating. Whatever your rules are, the best time to start talking about healthy relationships is before your teen starts dating.

Help your teen develop healthy expectations for relationships. Get tips for talking to your kids about healthy relationships.

Take Action

Be Prepared

Help protect your teen from STDs by sharing the facts they need to make healthy decisions.

Think about what you want to say ahead of time.

It’s normal to be nervous when talking to your teen about something like STDs. Learn about STDs so you’ll be ready for the conversation. You may also want to practice what you’ll say to them with another adult, like your partner or another parent.

Before you talk with your teen about preventing STDs:

Start Talking

Be honest about how you feel.

Talking with your teen about how to prevent STDs may not be easy for you. It’s normal for both of you to feel uncomfortable — and it’s okay to be honest about how you feel.

Remember, when you're honest with your teen, they're more likely to be honest with you. And keep in mind that your teen may ask a question you can’t answer. That's okay! Tell them you're not sure — then look up the answer together.

Try not to give your teen too much information at once.

You have plenty of time to talk about preventing STDs. You don’t need to fit everything into 1 conversation — it’s actually better if you don’t. Give your teen time to think — they may come back later and ask questions.

Make this the first conversation of many about preventing STDs. 

Conversation Tips

Listen and ask questions.

Show your teen that you're paying attention and trying to understand their thoughts and feelings. Try these tips:

  • Repeat back what your teen says in your own words. For example, “So you don’t think you're at risk for getting an STD?”
  • Ask questions to help guide the conversation. For example, “Have you talked in school about how to prevent STDs?”
  • Ask questions that check for your teen’s understanding. For example, “What did you learn about how STDs spread?”
  • Talk about something that happened in a movie or TV show. For example, “It looks like they had sex without using a condom. What do you think about that?”

Get more tips for listening to your teen.

Talk while you are doing something together.

Sometimes it’s easier to have a conversation while you're doing something else at the same time. For example, try talking with your teen about sex and STDs when you're driving in the car or cooking dinner.

You can still show your teen that you are listening to them by nodding your head or repeating what they say.

Get ideas from other parents.

Remember that you aren’t the only person thinking about how to talk to a teen about preventing STDs. Ask other parents what they have done. You may be able to get helpful tips and ideas.

Prevention Counseling

Ask your teen’s doctor about STD prevention counseling.

Experts recommend that all teens who are sexually active get counseling to prevent STDs. That means it’s part of a doctor’s job to help teens learn how to prevent STDs. 

STD counseling may happen as part of your teen’s regular doctor visits. For example, the doctor may: 

  • Give your teen basic information about STDs and how they spread
  • Figure out your teen’s risk of getting or spreading an STD
  • Teach your teen important skills — like how to use condoms and how to get tested for STDs

The doctor may also refer your teen to a health educator or counselor for STD prevention counseling. 

What about cost?

Under the Affordable Care Act, insurance plans must cover certain STD prevention counseling and screening services for teens.

Depending on your insurance plan, your teen may be able to get STD counseling and screening at no cost to you. Check with your insurance company to find out more. 

Your child may also qualify for free or low-cost health insurance through Medicaid or the Children's Health Insurance Program (CHIP). Learn about coverage options for your family.

If you don't have insurance, your child may still be able to get free or low-cost counseling and screening. Find a health center near you and ask about STD prevention.

To learn more, check out these resources:

Content last updated June 1, 2022

Reviewer Information

This information on STD prevention was adapted from materials from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force.

Reviewed by:
Health Communication Science Office
National Center for HIV/AIDS, Viral Hepatitis, STD, and TB Prevention
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention